Have you ever felt anxious, depressed, nervous, or angry? Or feeling low on self confidence and self esteem? One of the questions I get asked a lot by my clients (and friends too) is how to build self confidence and start to feel good about life.
No matter how bad or how low you feel, if you start to use these techniques when you’re feeling low, I know you will start to feel much better and far happier than you ever thought possible. They’ll also show you how to start really achieving your goals and life long dreams at the drop of a hat.
The techniques are based on Neuro Linguistic Programming methods (or NLP), and will enable you to move away from negative and disempowering moods and emotions, and into much more positive and powerful emotions literally within seconds. Whenever you feel bad, you’ll discover how to instantly turn that feeling around and be feeling on top of the world literally within a matter of seconds.
Don’t be misled – knowledge is not power.
You may be familiar with the saying that “knowledge is power” – unfortunately that’s not quite true. You could read everything here, gain the knowledge but still not see any improvements in your life. That’s because “Action is Power”, not knowledge. To reap the benefits of these techniques you must put them into action. It will only take you 10 – 15 minutes a day, but they will likely be the most powerful and stimulating 15 minutes.
Let’s get started with some Magic Hats.
This process you’re about to discover is more commonly known as Magic Hats. You get 5 different colored hats (not real hats – they’re jus in your mind) and 5 very simple steps to follow. In fact there so simple you can have them down in less than 20 minutes.
Step 1 – Self Hypnosis. This is where you place yourself in a very deep state of total relaxation. Just feeling this relaxed is enough to make you feel great, but we are only just getting started.
Step 2. Modalities. Your modalities are your modes of thinking – or how your brain recalls past memories. Have you ever smelt a familiar smell and almost immediately recalled the memory of where you were and what you were doing when you first encountered that smell. Or looked at an old photo and had the memories come flooding back? We remember our past experiences through our senses – just like this.
Step 3. Swish Patterns. This is simply a method where we replace one emotion with another. So if we are experiencing a negative emotion, it’s a method we use to replace it with a positive and happy emotion.
Step 4. Anchors. When you are experiencing your new positive behaviour it’s important to “anchor” it in your memory so that you can recall it whenever you wish – literally at the drop of a hat.
Step 5. Understand your mode of operation. Most people simply react to the things that happen to them every day, and are therefore controlled by their environment. By understanding how and why we react in these ways, we can start to take control of our reactions, and finally decide how we react to the every day things that we experience.
So first we need to relax.
As human beings we work and function best when we are relaxed. In order for these techniques to work, you need to be fully relaxed – so here’s how to get more relaxed than you’ve probably ever been before. You can do this anywhere you wish just so long as you won’t be disturbed for the next 10 minutes.
Find a comfortable chair, and sit down with your back straight, feet flat on the floor and the base of your spine pushed back into the chair (this helps you sit up straight).
1. Place your right hand on your stomach where you belt buckle sits (or would sit if you’re not wearing a belt).
2. Take a deep breath in and push out your stomach muscles allowing your lungs to start expanding into your stomach area – this helps fill your lungs from the bottom allowing you to get much more air into them. Continue to inhale filling the top of your lungs as well. When you can’t breathe in anymore, hold your breath for a slow count of 6.By holding your breath, you ensure your lungs can extract the maximum amount of oxygen from the air and get it into your bloodstream.
3. Start to breath out slowly again for a slow count of 6. At the same time pull in your stomach muscles to help squash the air out of your lungs. Suck your stomach in as far as you can. When you’ve breathed out all the air and sucked your stomach in, hold it for a slow count of 6.
4. Do it all over again and repeat for between 6 and 12 times.
So what you’re doing is: Push out your stomach and breathe in – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6; Hold your breath – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6; Suck in your stomach and breathe out – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6; Hold your breath – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6; Repeat the complete process 6 – 12 times.
When you’ve finished (or maybe even while you’re in the middle of the exercise) you may feel slightly dizzy or light headed. This is simply because your blood is now highly oxygenated and you are more relaxed.
Now that you’re calm and relaxed you can move on to the rest of the program – I haven’t got space to fit everything in here so there’s a free download you can get over at http://magic-hats.com with the rest of the steps. You can download it and have completed the first task within the next 10 minutes, and be on your way to a happier, more positive and much more successful life.
Wendy Jones is a personal development and life coach. Here she explains how to build self confidence with meditation using some simple yet highly effective meditation techniques using the Magic Hats program from a highly respected master NLP practitioner.